Josh Schwarzbaum, MD, MBA

Undoubtedly we have all experienced the loss of socks in the dryer. 

I was recently talking to my sister-in-law about this phenomenon and was lamenting over this especially as related to my kids. 

Without even knowing it, she replied in a very profound way and said, “I look at socks as being disposable so it doesn’t bother me anymore.” 

It hit me right at that moment, that with a slight shift in the way we look at things, our emotional reality changes with it. 

Instead of experiencing loss and confusion, there was now a third option. Surrender to the fact that socks get lost. 

I may never know where they go but if I think of them as a disposable commodity, when they do go missing, it wouldn’t bother me at all. 

This simple change of thought costs nothing and in fact, it doesn’t take much work. With this shift in perspective I see the experience in a new light and a new feeling follows. 

It’s a simple brilliance that underlies everything. 

Ultimately, our reality is always created via the power of Thought and our ability to automatically recognize it in the moment. We seamlessly pick up on the thoughts that go through our minds and translate them into experiences full of sensation, emotions, and feelings.

With a change of thought the entire experience changes as well. While I may never solve the mystery of where the socks go, I no longer need to lament the fact that they are gone. If I do happen to find them somewhere down the line, that will be great but in the meantime, I feel okay with my newfound perspective.

Like the socks, my thoughts come and go. And when I let them pass, they no longer have an effect on me. It’s only once they enter back into my consciousness and occupy space within my mind that they can generate an elaborate response within my physical and emotional body. 

As soon as I’ve surrendered to the fact that the sock is gone, combined with the thought that it’s disposable it doesn’t feel much different than throwing out a plastic fork. Like that fork, my expectation is that the sock will not remain and once I’ve let it go, it no longer has a hold on me.

Now, when I find myself experiencing something negative I know that there is the potential of another possibility out there. I may not know what it is at the time but if i know that it’s there, and i allow my mind to settle it may just pop up when I least expect it. When it does, it may present a whole new reality for me. One where I feel more centered and at peace despite the difficulty that I once perceived.

Dr. Josh Schwarzbaum is a triple board certified physician in emergency medicine, addiction medicine, and emergency medical services. He consults for organizations and coaches individuals helping them find their natural resilience and peace of mind no matter what life brings their way.

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